“I will never play with you again,” it sounds, before the little one slams the door behind him.
There appears to be at least one in any family, group of friends or company: the bad loser.
But that should not keep you from the pleasures. You can easily be successful with board games anyway, says Andreas Lieberoth, who is an assistant professor at the Danish Institute for Pedagogy and Education at Aarhus University.
He researches media and social psychology and does, among other things, behavioral experiments with games.
– You can make sure to choose a cooperative game. So instead of playing against each other, you play against the game. Then they get more mad at the game, he says.
In addition, one can help make the experience a little better for those who are having a hard time dealing with the defeat.
– Give them some space. If you know you have a bad loser at the table, you may not have to joke them over the toes and make the feeling worse. Then you get a “table flip”, he says, referring to the scene where the game board and pieces are sent on a flight.
As a parent, you as a parent can help expand the perspective, so it also makes sense that sometimes you have to lose.
This is what Anette Prehn, a sociologist and author of a number of books on the rules of the brain and the importance of social interaction, says.
– Then you can say, for example: “If you won every single time, how many do you think would want to play with you?”. Or “how good it is for Jonathan that today he is the one who can enjoy winning”.
– It’s about getting out of your own shoes. See the world from a different angle than the one you represent, and that is a big challenge, says Anette Prehn.
She also advises to actively use directional remarks, which act as a kind of commentary track. It can help open the baby’s eyes.
For example, some games contain an element of chance, such as when drawing cards. And here you can help articulate that it goes up and down for everyone.
– Then you can say out loud with a smile, if you yourself have received a bad card: “Oh for the south, it was a bit of a hand, I got there”. It is the language of temporality to be able to say and signal that it is a little difficult at this stage, but that it may turn around a little.
– The children’s reaction has a lot to do with how we as parents react if we are behind or have bad cards, she explains.
By playing with your child, you can also dress it up for the first play experiences with friends.
– There are some games that are often played in Denmark, so teach the children to play them in a safe room at home, where they both try to win and lose, says Anette Prehn.
– As a parent, it is also important to have some perseverance to expose the children to some different games.
/ ritzau focused /
Source: The Nordic Page