Have you ever let your friends play with your Tinder account? JUST DON’T!
Especially if they send things like “Hey beautiful! Want to come over and have fun?”
Most guys would be super happy to receive that message, but I’ve found that some Danish men can get caught up in the logistics of you being 30 minutes away from their location and end up rejecting you.
Of course, “Come over, I’ll cook for you”, is in the same ballpark. The only difference is that it’s not a joke typed into your Tinder by one of your friends.
My friend Valerie has had it sent to her more than once. And she and her forehead vein make a good stand when a guy suggests getting close to his place.
I don’t know about you, but I have all kinds of emotions when I hear that phrase.
Beyond the sex trap
Valerie, like most of the ladies I know, would say the phrase the guy wants sex, period.
After all, it can be really easy for women in Copenhagen to get laid – it’s probably easier than arranging a first date.
But looking back on my dating experiences in Copenhagen, I’ve learned that Danish men never fail to surprise me, time and time again, with their unconventional ways of dating, so what if there’s more to their homemade invitation?
If he’s just a damn good cook and wants to play to his strengths, can you blame him? Or better yet, he’s a guy who takes great pleasure/pride in cooking for others and wanting to cook for is just his way of serving you comfort on a plate.
And besides, it’s a completely different experience than going to a restaurant. It’s more intimate and you can see the guy in action in his kitchen, maybe a bit nervous and vulnerable about whether you’ll like the food.
Or maybe he’s just super confident because he makes the best lasagna in town!
Remnant of COVID-19
It’s true that when we were in lockdown, for many guys “Come over, I’ll cook for you” meant only one thing, but it was usually presented as “Oops, all the cafes and restaurants are closed, let’s meet at my place.”
I don’t know about you girls, but this behavior was a no-go for my female clients. They inspired guys to get creative instead and arrange amazing picnics for them.
Lockdown sparked a lot of bad dating behavior that has unfortunately continued to this day. Lazy and greedy guys made no effort to arrange dates, instead choosing what was convenient, such as suggesting to meet at his place for a date because he was expecting a package to arrive. I mean come on dude!
My friend Louisa was invited to a guy’s place for dinner and it ended in a huge disappointment.
The home cooked meal turned out to be throwing a frozen pizza in the oven and finally throwing her bag and shoes out the door because she didn’t want to move the party to the bedroom.
It’s Copenhagen, and it’s safe, but you never know what you’re walking into.
Date before dinner
So what is my takeaway from all of this?
Girls, get to know the guy a little before you approach him. And then, if he wants to cook for you, go for it and don’t overanalyze what it all means.
A guy going through the trouble of buying the products, cleaning his place (hopefully), and cooking you a meal tends to be a little more meaningful than just wanting to get in your pants.
Bon appetit to you all!
Source: The Nordic Page